Am I the Asshole for Leaving a Wedding Because My Boyfriend Ignored Me for His Ex and Called Me Insecure?

I’m a 27-year-old woman, and my boyfriend, 29, took me to a close friend’s wedding last weekend. I was excited for a fun night with good food, an open bar, and dancing, even bought a new dress since it was our first big event as a couple. Things were fine until I saw his ex there—something I had no idea about.

The moment he spotted her, he acted like I didn’t exist. They greeted like old friends, hugging and catching up as if it was a romantic movie scene. I tried to act cool, chatting with his friends, but they kept laughing, touching, whispering, and dancing multiple times, making me want to cry quietly.

I quietly told him his behavior made me uncomfortable. Instead of understanding, he rolled his eyes and called me insecure, saying I was overreacting because she’s just his ex. I felt hurt, like I was the problem for caring about him being so friendly with his ex at a wedding I was invited to.

I stayed another 20 minutes but couldn’t handle it any longer. I told a friend I was unwell and left without telling my boyfriend. He only texted me at midnight asking where I was. When I explained I felt invisible and disrespected, he accused me of overreacting and said I embarrassed him. He even said I was the reason he couldn’t bring me around others, saying I always make situations about myself.

Since then, he’s been distant, barely speaking to me. Part of me wonders if I should have stayed and pushed through, but I believe leaving was my last bit of self-respect.

So, am I the asshole for walking out of a wedding after my boyfriend’s ex showed up, he ignored me all night, and then called me insecure when I expressed how I felt?

Responses from others:

• queenlegolas: “Break up. He doesn’t respect you.”

• AsparagusOverall8454: “Dump him. He’s no good.”

• Tight-Shift5706 (a guy): “He disrespected you completely. Cut him off.”

• jgasbarro: “You’ll only be an asshole if you don’t leave him. Find someone who notices you.”

Update from OP:
After the wedding, things grew tense with my boyfriend. He got colder, dismissing any talks as drama. His friends later told me they noticed how flirty he was with his ex and how uncomfortable I looked, which helped me realize I wasn’t crazy.

When I calmly tried talking again, he denied wrongdoing, labeled me jealous, and controlling. That was the final straw. I ended things, telling him I won’t tolerate my feelings being ignored.

He texted days later, surprised I actually broke up over this. But for me, it wasn’t small—it was about respect, which he refused to give. After seeing others agree with me, I know leaving was the right choice.