I’m Pregnant and Refused to Pay for Alcohol at a Bachelorette Party—Was I Wrong?
When planning a group party, alcohol costs can add up fast. Some people say BYOB is fairest, while others split the bill evenly—but what happens when not everyone drinks?
A pregnant woman turned to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” (AITA) for answers after her friends called her out for refusing to split the alcohol costs at a bachelorette party.
The Situation
The group rented an Airbnb with a hot tub (which cost $500 extra) and split all expenses evenly—including groceries, decorations, and alcohol. Since she’s pregnant, she didn’t drink and brought her own alcohol-free wine.
When it came time to split the bill, she said: “I’ll pay my share, but not for the alcohol—I didn’t drink any.”
Her friends pushed back, saying everyone should split costs equally. She argued:
- She already paid extra for the hot tub (which she didn’t use).
- She told them upfront she wouldn’t drink.
- It’s not about the money—it’s the principle.
“Would I ask a vegan to pay for meat? Or a non-drinker to pay for alcohol? No.”
The Debate
Redditors were divided:
✅ “NTA (Not the Ahole)” – She’s Right**
- “She’s pregnant and said she wouldn’t drink. Why should she pay for others’ alcohol?”
- “In my friend group, pregnant women never pay for booze—it’s common sense!”
- “She already paid for the hot tub she didn’t use. This is greedy.”
❌ “YTA (You’re the Ahole)” – She’s Wrong**
- “You agreed to split costs—now you’re backing out?”
- “It’s a party for the bride, not you. Pay your share like everyone else.”
- “Next time, clarify costs BEFORE the party.”
The Verdict?
Some say splitting evenly is fair—others call it unreasonable to make a pregnant woman pay for alcohol.
What do YOU think? Would you split the bill—or only pay for what you use?
